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Employer vs. Employee – Four Differences in Perspective

I’m writing about this topic because I’ve seen some mind frames specific to the two categories: Employer vs. Employee. Below I will list 4 differences.

I remember the time when I would go to interviews – the mentality of someone under pressure to achieve excellence – as well as the entire time I was an employee, the problems I dealt with and my emotional response to them. One of the big differences between who I was back then and who I am now is the perspective and the manner in which we grant importance to certain aspects.


More clearly, the emotional response in relation to the importance of the stimulus.

For instance, when I was an employee I would get very upset when I couldn’t find in the computer the files I needed and I considered that it was my employer’s duty to leave a note on the desktop telling me exactly how to get to one document or another. I would get upset if one of the clients decided to postpone the course. I didn’t realise that there were objective reasons and major emergencies for the decision and I didn’t understand that it was more important to keep the relationship with the client – a long-term vision – rather than cash in the money – a short-term and disadvantageous vision. Minor issues would be of the utmost importance for me.


The locus of control is a generalised expectation (Rotter, 1966) concerning the possibility of reaching the desired aims and goals. It is the extent to which an individual assigns either an external causality (environmental factors) or an internal causality (personal decisions) to their behaviour.

Source: http://www.101teluri.ro/2010/11/locus-de-control/

See my article on this topic: The locus of control


As an employee my outlook was always oriented towards the exterior – towards whoever seemed to be able to make my life easier or more difficult. It didn’t even cross my mind that I CAN BE THE ENGINE of what’s happening or that I CAN CHOOSE MY OWN ANSWERS.


Difference #3: THE VISION

Employers are constantly looking for means of creating a working environment as favourable as possible: catering, team-buildings, Christmas presents and so on.

The employers are the ones who have the overall view of the business, the direction where it’s heading and the most important actions to be carried out in relation to the goals.  If the company is financially successful, all the employees are satisfied; if the resources are not properly allotted, everyone risks losing their jobs.

The things you see and feel as an employer in the training domain are that you are basically adopting someone whose taxes you’re going to pay. For a net salary of 1,000 lei the company pays around 800 lei to the state for all the taxes belonging to both the employee as well as the employer: health insurance, pension, unemployment benefit, income tax, social security. There are so many taxes and all of them are rather high, Romania being one of the European “champions” from this point of view, despite the unique and rather low income.

So, you adopt a person whom you develop professionally and personally through trainings and courses, to whom you offer access to various social interactions at the highest level, to whom you provide a FUN environment. I, as an employee, have never seen all these.

As an employer you see the company as both a community and an ecosystem.

All I saw was: postponed courses for which I obviously wasn’t paid and for which I would have wanted to receive some money from the company anyway (meaning I wanted a bigger salary than the money I brought to the company, without being aware of the huge taxes they were paying for me apart from my salary), very stressful meeting for professional development, boring planning meetings, colleagues who would train me and who considered themselves superior because of this – a completely delusional perception – team-buildings during which I would have preferred to stay in my room and read peacefully.

As an employee I saw the company both as a machine and a battlefield.



As an employer you’ve reached a level of maturity where you see the absolute necessity of internal procedures by means of which you can define both the direction and the manner of interaction with clients.

You define your values, your mission and your vision through strenuous work until you end up having a unitary vision; then you strive to inspire your employees having all these as guidelines: the company’s vision, mission and values. The aim is to create a feeling of unity, as well as efficient and quality working standards.

My motivation stems from the mission I have adopted of promoting my vision and my values concerning communication.

As an employee you are in full process of assimilating the optimal behaviour in accordance with these three elements and it can take quite a while. You are focused on immediate activities that are very time-consuming, sometimes to the detriment of your personal happiness. An employer knows that if you’re not happy at home you’re not happy at work either. An employer will ask you to calculate your efforts and prioritise your activities. But as an employee you’re motivated by the fear of having your boss constantly on your back – so you work overtime for fear of losing your job or not getting your salary on time.

Your motivation stems from fear.

Whether we are employees or employers, it’s good to realise that the job is not a necessary evil crowned with resentment towards our oppressors (whether they are our superiors or just unamenable colleagues), but rather a place where you feel good, where you learn and develop and gain an overall view of what a specific job means in the context of our professional evolution. As an employee, if you receive a position as trainer within a training company you should understand that it’s a position that may re-launch your entire career and lead you to where many other managers dream of getting.

Learn to see the advantages.

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Translated by my dear colleague, Diana Ilie.


The Dark Side of Entrepreneurship

EntrepreneurThey say entrepreneurship is about creating something great. Pursuing a dream. Which is so true.

I say Entrepreneurship is about fighting for your freedom. 

I have been inspired to write this article by a serendipitous sentence I could hear these days from Clate Mask, GM of Infusionsoft who sais “ Our love comes from our just total hatred and distaste for the failure and the sacrifices, and the bankruptcies and the broken families and broken relationships and all of the hard ache and despair that is the dark side of entrepreneurship that people don’t talk about very often … it makes you want to increase the likelihood of success for people”

When they enter my office, people notice an inscription on the wall which reads: Don’t dream your life, live your dreams. Indeed, it’s been a hard 8 year and 5 months way in which I have put every drop of my creativity, power of action and relentless determination in my company growth, only to live my dream. I have started from an 180 eur salary – literally from scratch.

What made me start? The trust that one single person had in me and his vision of me having my own company and being an entrepreneur. This article is dedicated to him, an Australian CFO living somewhere else now.

Starting from scratch does not give you much vision. You have your job and your talent. Not too much knowledge of what it would mean to have your own company, but a lot of imagination – but, as Einstein said, “imagination is more important than knowledge.” Only gradually, after a few years, your vision and your mission come into light, helping you move forward.

Entrepreneurship is about learning things the hard way. Each stage of my development was reflected outside into business. Every single wrong decision coming from the lack of knowledge, lack of experience or stubbornness had a clear reflection into business and hit me in the face. No room for blaming others. Mistakes become crystal clear and each time bring you to the point of fighting with your own mind and feelings. And gain more and more experience and strength.

Entrepreneurship means humbleness learnt the hard way. An entrepreneur must systematically forget about his/her ego. There inevitably comes a moment when you have to pay the big taxes and you don’t have the necessary money. It is the moment when you need to discipline your emotions as if you are close to getting drowned. Your ego must become like water, move in the same manner and be hit by nothing. Only afterwards you can go and ask relatives for funds. If your ego is like a wall, this will be the moment when a lot of strange happenings coming all at a time will knock you out mentally and physically. You learn to be as strong as water, not as strong as a rock. This is the point when you ignore in a disciplined way that you have a delicate woman psyche.

Entrepreneurship is a spiritual path. As an entrepreneur you evolve at an amazing speed on so many levels because you have to wear so many hats: you need to understand the whereabouts of accountancy, HR& people management, time and risk management, sales, purchasing, customer database management, technology, marketing, strategy and so many more! An entrepreneur can be anything but lazy!

On my way I have met many amazing people aspiring to being entrepreneurs or who have tried entrepreneurship and haven’t succeeded. The only thing these people are sorry for, was that they haven’t tried harder, that they have given up. They say: “I could have recognized that opportunity. I could have managed the rent with just 500 eur more a month. I could have gone 3 more months and the hard period would have passed. I could have retained that customer.”

But who speaks about their unsuccess and downfall? No one.

I remember those 20 minutes in my life that I was close to getting drowned. I could see how despair was taking all my energy and a sudden switch happened. I knew I had to choose between life and death, and choosing life meant to preserve my resources and keep on the surface. A very calculated “self” with an amazing power rose up inside and thanks to this “self” I live now.

That moment taught me that I need to discipline my emotions, the army way. And I can say now that one crucial factor of success in an entrepreneur’s life is disciplined optimism.

In the first 5 years, an entrepreneur might not have holidays. It seems hard, doesn’t it? Until he manages to find the right people and good clients, the business depends mainly on him. A one-week-break can give him lots of headaches, so he learns to pull his breath on the way.

For an entrepreneur, his employees come first, he comes last. He protects them the same way a parent protects his children; offering them the necessary resources and paying them on time is one of the major concerns he goes to bed and wakes up with. His experience taught him to accept personal financial deprivation by default.

An entrepreneur has to benumb the chair under him. He gets to have a huge capacity of keeping focused on a task for many hours. He needs to broaden his knowledge and find new ways of doing things. He needs to manage simultaneously multiple tasks while making good decisions.

An entrepreneur sees and feels God. For an entrepreneur GOD is not an empty word. He knows disappointment, struggling and despair and feels much stronger every single good thing that happens.

A good friend of mine, a country manager of an electronic goods company told me some time ago “Only a salesperson can see God!” I’ve replied that not only a salesperson but an entrepreneur can see God as well.

It is said that humans cannot see God because He moves very fast. An entrepreneur and a salesperson have to move as fast as they can on their path. And it happens that they approach God’s speed so that they can get to feel Him and His Grace. Each time a financial positive synchronicity moved me forward, I felt it was only the Hand of God. Call it being the right person at the right time or call it fate, if you wish. It has raised strong feelings of spiritual humbleness in my heart.

The dark side of entrepreneurship means hardship. Hardship makes you very human – one who has been life-forged .

An entrepreneur is a true force of nature.

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